Courtesy Calls or More?

So as you know from my last post I bought a new truck! It’s small but not the smallest since it has the double cab. When I went to the dealer I really didn’t think I was going to come out with something. I have been thinking of getting a new car for quite some time because my old car really needed a lot of maintenance and I was tired of putting money into it just to put more money in it 3 months later.

When I showed up at the dealer, I didn’t think they would take me seriously. I was by myself (first time ever at a car dealer!) and I am a girl after all and a sweet one at that. I did ask SexyMexi (my friend at work) how it went when she bought her car so I could an idea of what to say/not say, what to look for, and how to negotiate. My salesman introduced himself (I will call him just that, SalesMan) and immediately brought me to Corollas and the Camrys. I knew what I had in mind though. He was surprised when I said I wanted to look at the trucks.

So we went through the whole deal and I realized he was hitting on me. I figured I’d take advantage of this, but in the end I don’t know how that really worked out. We sealed the deal and I had him take pictures of me with my old and new car since I was by myself and didn’t have anyone to help me document my experience. It’s a huge deal to buy a car that involves financing for the first time! I mean I did buy my first car, but my parents did all the negotiating and I just emptied out my bank account and handed over the cash so we didn’t have to make payments.

When ScubaDiver bought his new car, the salesperson called him a few times to make sure everything was okay. My salesman did the same, but then he started texting me as well. I was like

Does this always happen?

I was at the gym last night and he texted me about my truck and eventually called. I was on the treadmill, though so I didn’t answer. I let him know I was at the gym and he started texting more.

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OMG!!! I had a feeling this was going to happen!

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So I called him on my home from the gym and we talked about the party. I said I would go with him and then he asked me out for drinks so we could get to know each other before the party. Oh sheesh. I eventually straight up said

Are you asking me on a date?

He was very taken aback and just laughed. It was cute though. He just said he wanted to make sure I didn’t think this was business and it was actually a personal call. He kept asking me if that is okay. I said it was fine and I agreed to go out with him on Friday evening for drinks. I don’t see us going anywhere past this weekend. I will have to tell him I just want to be friends, but the holiday party seems intriguing!

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Somethin Bout A Truck

SportsJunkie

He texted me yesterday at about 4pm and I was surprised. The text let me know that he did pay attention to the act that I had the day off. But at the same time, why did he text me? I’m still having that feeling of not being able to let go of him.

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My new truck!! I’m so super excited! SportsJunkie and I talked about the truck for a little bit and he eventually sent me another cute text letting me know he was thinking about me. Sigh. I like that he thinks about me, but I don’t at the same time. Does this mean I would rather it end like MrFourthofJuly and GymGuy where I never hear from them again? Ugh maybe it’s easier in the long run.

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That is too super cute that he wrote about Disney! Oh sheesh. I know he was halfway picking at me but that’s what makes it so cute. A text followed that told me he finished a whole bottle of wine himself that night. Maybe that is why he felt so bold that he could text me all night. I knew there had to be something because isn’t he trying to distance himself from me?

The next texts are interesting. I’m not sure if I responded with the right teasing words.

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Notice that I immediately followed up the text with another one. I didn’t really want to give him time to respond to us being done. He ended up just talking about how he is going to be at the game in Cleveland since he is going home to visit his family.

Well, we shall see what happens from here!

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Jingle All the Way

ToughMudder

Omg! Guess who I saw at the Jingle All the Way 8k this morning! Of course judging by the heading you know it was ToughMudder. I didn’t say hi to him or anything. I didn’t want to make eye contact. I can’t even tell you if the friends he was with were all guys or if there some girls in his group. I actually decided to text him to say hi. I left it pretty closed because I don’t see us going out again but I still wanted to acknowledge I saw him.

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SportsJunkie

Earlier this week I told him he should sign up for the race. I sent him a picture of the socks my friend and I were going to wear that looked like candy canes with the white Santa hat trim below the knees.

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After the race we went to brunch and when I got home before I took a nap I sent him a picture of my friend and I before the race. He actually responded and he was so cute. Why does he have to be that way? I honestly didn’t expect the type of texts he sent back. Ugh.

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So he WAS thinking about me this morning. It’s just weird to think about. I mean I understand he didn’t want to get too involved with me considering the things he was trying to do for work. I mean I know he likes me. We were a good fit. It just honestly wasn’t the right time. We both know that. Like I said, it’s just weird to think about. You hear all the time that timing matters and I never really believed that excuse until now. I think he is trying just as much as I am to not let our emotions overrule what is obviously not going to work out.

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Beautiful and Sweet

SportsJunkie

I’m tired of men telling me I’m beautiful and sweet BUT… When will someone appreciate my ‘sweetness?’ That seems like someone describing me as ‘nice’ and nice is a con (vs a pro, you may not all get that reference).

Last night I was in my room catching up on TV from the week with a glass of wine. Okay maybe I had a few more than just one glass.

I texted SportsJunkie this afternoon and did not receive a response. First full day I didn’t hear from him. You know how I’ve mentioned I felt him trying to distance himself? I just wasn’t ready to hear the end last weekend on the phone. Now I decided I’ve had a week to let it sink in and I’m ready to talk about it, knowing full well how the conversation is going to go.

I wrote and rewrote my first text to him about 5 times. I even copied and pasted it into a draft email so I could copy and paste certain parts I wanted to use in the text. Haha. Below is what I eventually came up with…

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Then this morning I followed up. I don’t know if it was the best thing for me to do but I just had to find a way to comment on his 9-5 excuse. If that is what it is.

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Nurses?? So he’s going to limit himself to only dating nurses? Omg. I guess you could kind of compare it to me wanting to try to date someone in the military, but really. Geez. At this point, I had pretty much said my peace so I kept it light for the rest of the conversation. Maybe I really will see him around.

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Of course I had to leave it open. We had too many laughs, smiles and sweet kisses to completely leave this alone. I know from experience that it will fade but it’s easier to ease our way out of the situation than to cut it off cold turkey.

Sigh…. I liked him. #3 of guys I actually saw a potential future that didn’t work out.

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No Responses

It’s the first week in December. It’s getting colder. The days feel shorter than ever. My online dating profile expires 3 weeks from now. I can’t believe it’s been 5 months since I started online dating and I haven’t found anyone to spend my time with. Makes the days even colder and seem even darker.

IrishPolitician

I knew he must’ve been home from wherever he was going and I hadn’t heard from him so I texted him before the Alabama game to say I wanted Alabama to win so I could see Notre Dame crush them in the National Championship in January. He didn’t respond. I did know that he read the text though because he has iMessaging and I saw his read receipt. He should turn that off so people can’t see when the texts are read! Haha!

MarineGator

I texted him last night just to say I hope he is having a great week. I also said Go Navy this weekend because I want them to beat the Army in the football faceoff this weekend. I did not hear back from him.

SportsJunkie

So this is probably the section you were probably wondering about the most. He and I have been texting only every so often this week. Just friendly texts. Literally friendly. Like I think he just wants to be friends. It is Friday today so maybe he doesn’t want me to think we will definitely be hanging out this weekend. I told him he should sign up for the Jingle All the Way 8k this weekend but he said he didn’t know if he will.

I have off this Monday which is usually one of his weekend days, but I haven’t told him. I don’t want to seem like an idiot and be excited to tell him I have off because I don’t want him to think I expect him to spend his Monday with me. Oh gosh. Is this too much of something called mind games?

I actually logged onto my dating profile this morning with the intention of looking at other potential suitors which I have not done in quite some time. I am just realizing that I think SportsJunkie just doesn’t want to have the conversation with me about breaking it off so he is easing out of it by making our texts dwindle. There was a profile that stuck out to me when it mentioned communication. It said he likes things to be open because he can’t read minds. Of course no one can read minds, but I do have to admit that I hold some things in and I get annoyed at the situation because there hasn’t been a discussion about it. If there is communication then no one would have to wonder what the other is thinking. Ugh.

One other thing I noticed when I was online – SportsJunkie has not been on his account in 2 weeks. Hmmm.

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Flowers

SportsJunkie

On Friday there were not any flowers waiting for me. That’s when I decided I needed to go to a girlie movie by myself. I needed something. I was disappointed. How are you going to lead a girl on like that? What is true and what is not? I wish he wouldn’t have even told me about them.

Last night I actually confronted him about them! In a joking manner. We were talking about the turning over of November into December and I commented on his little Christmas tree in his apartment. I nudged him playfully and said

Oh, yea, where are my flowers?

He didn’t squirm or anything. He said he guesses he needed to call them tomorrow to see what’s going on with them because obviously the 30th has come and passed. I just said

Well, I told you to cancel them.

He then said

Well, I wanted specific ones.

Then he started searching through his email to find the delay in delivery email. He said it was weird because it was dated 1969. He eventually did show it to me and as badly as I wanted to take the phone from him and read the email in its entirety, I refrained and acted like I didn’t care and it didn’t matter. If I wanted to take it even further I could’ve asked for the confirmation email that he actually placed the purchase.

Sketchy. Weird. Judging by the way things are going though, I don’t think I will be receiving any flowers in the mail. He probably either A) cancelled them and decided not get me anything, or B) really didn’t order them in the first place and saved that email from another time and shows it to all his girls. Haha, oh geez.

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Communication

Communication is key in any relationship right? What does that mean exactly? Does that only mean when you are already established in a relationship you need to keep the communication open and flowing in order to continue making it work? Or does it mean right from the start? I don’t have the correct answer obviously since I haven’t figured it out myself judging by my overly communicative/word vomit stories, but you would think it should be right from the start. Right?

SportsJunkie

This weekend was an interesting one for me. I went to a movie by myself on Friday and then watched the SEC championship game on Saturday at home because I could not find someone who wanted to watch it with me at a bar. You know how I always get a weird inkling and it usually turns out the way I think it’s going to turn out? Meaning, it’s going to be the end? SportsJunkie and I aren’t there yet, but I think it’s coming. Or something. Him and I need to communicate and I failed to do that this weekend.

Friday

So you know already that SportsJunkie has an interesting work/life schedule. It’s like he is on call at all times and he never knows if he will in fact have off on the days he thinks he will. On Friday night he mentioned to me that he may have to work on Sunday (the day we usually hang out and the day that is technically the start of his weekend) because there was an awards ceremony at the Kennedy Center. I didn’t make a comment that I was sad or mad or anything, although I was very disappointed, of course. I actually mentioned to him that it is kind of cool the things he gets to experience with his job. We didn’t talk much after that since it was late so I told him goodnight.

Saturday

On Saturday we chatted all day about the SEC championship game. It was a great game! He was able to listen to it and watch it at times while at work. Now looking back on Friday and Saturdays’ texts, I think I did good not leading on to how disappointed I was about his changing schedule. I did have in my mind, though all last week that we haven’t texted as much and was wondering what he was thinking about us. I started to become compulsive about checking my phone, driving myself crazy and calling my friends and family so as to not text/call him and ask dumb questions.

Then on Saturday evening I started to show him my concern with his job hours. I didn’t know I was really doing anything at the time, but I can tell by the conversation we had on the phone last night before we met up that I must’ve made him start second guessing this relationship. Well, I don’t know if it’s second guessing, but it’s something. I can’t really explain it. These texts started immediately the game was over.

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So I knew at that point that I really told him too much information and it probably sounded like I was really lonely. We then had small talk for a little bit and eventually I knew he was leaving work soon and I really wanted to see him. I though perhaps even though he is getting off late and I didn’t have to work the next day we could have a sleepover. Even if we didn’t talk much, it still would’ve been nice to be next to him. Keep in mind the tomorrow was Sunday – the day he usually has off.

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When I read this text, I got weird chills. I know what this is. I’ve felt it before with alllll my other suitors when things were about to end. then he texted again.

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I wrote that last part because, well, at this point I was thinking that maybe he didn’t even WANT to see me. Don’t tell me I can go over there if I want. I want you to want me to come over! Then he wrote ‘Of course!’ Confusing to me. Is he just starting to feel bad? Does he actually in fact like me but is getting that my needs are not being met because of his schedule?

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Sunday

Notice that his text didn’t come in until noon the next day. Where were his good morning texts that he always sends? I was determined to wait until he texted me on Sunday morning. All he said was that he didn’t have to work. We talked about the Browns game and I said good luck to them. Then these texts followed.

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I had the weird inkling feeling again after reading that he had to wake up at 4am. They are literally chills I get when I have the feeling. Like a really uncomfortable quick tremble. How long did he know about that? Does that change anything? What does that mean? Is he telling me he doesn’t want to hang out?

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At this point, as you can probably tell, I was starting to voice my concern that maybe he just wants this to end and doesn’t really want to hang out with me.

I could’ve killed him. What does he mean ‘What do I want to do?” Are you kidding me? I don’t care if it’s only a couple of hours per week I see him! I like this guy and I thought he liked me too! I have the personality that I will wait around for a guy as long as I know he is waiting around for me as well. I consider a relationship a partnership. There needs to be communication in that partnership and understanding and want and need for the other person. This is why I would be okay with being a military wife. I am okay with not seeing a man EVERY single second of every single day!! All he has to do is look forward to the times we do have together!!! Ugh.

I called him immediately after I thought all those thoughts…

Phone Call

I just had to. It was driving me nuts. Crazy I say. I even called my brother before I called SportsJunkie to calm myself down. I can’t mess this up! What should I say? I have so much on my mind! What is he thinking? I don’t like this weird feeling! I think the end is coming!

We asked each other what was up and we talked about the plan for the evening. I actually told him I want to go over there but he is the one waking up early. He kept saying I am more than welcome to go over to his place but he just can’t stay up too late. I told him I was completely fine with that. Then there was a weird part to the conversation that I can’t even tell you verbatim because I didn’t understand what he was saying!! He something along the lines of…

You have a 9-5 job and I have different hours. While I know it is temporary I wanted to see how this was going to work out with you having the 9-5. [I think he also said something about taking this slow or something to see how it goes???]

I truly, honestly didn’t understand what he was saying so I responded with

What?

He ran through it again and this time I picked up him saying something about how awkward this is to talk about. Oh geez. Here it goes. Then I just said

So you don’t think this is working out?

I mean what else could I say? I really wanted to say, okay hold on, slow down and speak louder and clearer so I can understand what you are saying. Ha. But that one liner is all that came out. I honestly cannot tell you what he said after that besides,

You are more than welcome to come over, I’m just saying.

I then just said,

Okay. Yes, I want to go over there, even if it is for a few hours. I’ll see you soon.

And that was it. I showed up at his house feeling worried of what the night would bring, but I gave him a kiss at the door when I saw him anyways. We sat on the couch watching football, it took him a while to show any affection, but we ended the night making out on the couch. It was not brought up.

Should I have said something? Now I’m freaking out because I don’t know if I will ever have the chance to bring up the conversation on the phone and re-assure I him I want to keep this light as well and I am having fun with only seeing him every so often.

I sent him a text saying goodnight last night and he did not respond.  Now it’s 11am on Monday and he has still not sent me a text.

#freakingout

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